Let’s Talk About Sex.

“Why do you write gay romance?”

Author interviews always seem to include that question for me. And my answer is probably never entirely satisfactory, mostly because I don’t have the answer. There was no epiphany or grand moment. No critical thought process that I’ve heard other MM Romance authors give.

Gender and sexuality have always been a bizarre concept to me. It’s an autistic thing. I feel a bit detached on the idea of both. So, for me, romance is romance is romance.

While I am a woman and I identify as one, gender is one of those concepts I’ve always been quite detached from. I’ve spoken with other autistics who also find the male/female thing confusing. It’s a hard feeling to accurately describe.

It doesn’t affect my writing–and yet it does.

And by that I mean, when I write my brain doesn’t get caught up on gender differences necessarily in the same ways I see from allistic others. I do, however, seem to get into a rhythm of writing something in particular and struggle to shift into a different area. So, after starting with After the Scrum, my flow has continued with M/M, though all things considered my novels tend to include a diverse group of relationships amongst the cast of characters in the stories.

Sexuality or sexual orientation is equally different in my head from how I hear a lot of allistic authors talking about with their writing.

Sex scenes whether m/m, m/f, mmf, or mmm are the hardest bits of writing for me.

Another part, as a panster, I never genuinely set out to do one or the other or a variation. The story just spontaneously shows up from wherever my muse lives in my brain. I barely manage to plot out…the plot.

(The annoying part that I have zero control over. Fucking muse lol.)

I swear I had a point when I started this blog post, but I’ve gotten distracted.

I genuinely considered deleting this and starting over, but other autistic romance authors might appreciate and relate to seeing my struggles.

 

 

Creating a Diverse World.

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One thing I adore about my close circle of friends is the sheer diversity amongst them.   My friends are a mixed bag of race, nationality, sexuality, neuro-diversity and religious and political beliefs.  Why? Because unless you purposefully restrict yourself, it’s impossible not to have a diverse group of close friends and acquaintances in today’s world.  It may be helped by the fact that I grew up traveling around the world and the idea of selecting my friends from only one subset of humanity is nothing short of absurd to me.

Why would I restrict myself like that?

It’s hard enough, as someone with Apserger’s Syndrome, to develop and build friendships because interpersonal relationships are difficult for me.  It takes extra work on my part, and extra patience on their part.  And I am grateful to my friends who make the effort.  I’d be a lonely sad soul without them

The thing is though life is so much more fun when allow others to expand your horizons.

When I started thinking about the people and shifters in the Blackbird world, I wanted it to be just as diverse.

So what sort of mixed bag can you expect from the pack?

There are several diverse couples in the series, just a few of these are:

Josh and Alicia: Josh is black and all British while Alicia is in Josh’s words a Moroccan princess.

Lorcan and Ronan: Ronan is all Irish, but Lorcan is part Irish and part Korean. (m/m)

Sammie and Rosie: Sammie is half-Chinese and half-British, Rosie happens to be asexual though not aromantic. (f/f)

Elaine and Alim: Elaine is British and the resident Aspie in the Blackbird pack, Alim is Moroccan and not a sheikh no matter what his niece Alicia and her best friend Ivy claim.

How about you? Do you enjoy diversity in your romance?