Balance

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If 2018 had a word for me, it would be unbalanced. At least, that’s how the last six months of the year have gone. You know when you set goals/deadlines for yourself, and things start to pile up? And then it’s like a snowball rolling downhill, and you’re the target?

That was me.

So, for obvious reasons, my goal for 2019 is ‘balance’.

Balance in writing. Balance in my personal life. All about balance.

(How many times can I use the word balance in one post?)

My plan is to tackle this issue in a few ways.

I don’t know about other authors, but I struggle with all recommendations for ‘how an author should author.’ All those ‘experts’ who have the latest greatest advice. I think you have to be careful not to fall down every single rabbit hole with them.

And it is SO hard not to.

There’s always the latest greats ‘everyone is signing up for it’ new social media app or site. Mewe anyone?

Here’s the truth we never want to accept. You can’t be on EVERY single site. You can’t follow every piece of advice. You can’t be all things to all people (I think Lincoln said that.)

You just can’t.

There’s only so much of my brain power I can give.

I’m autistic, balance is crucial for me. If I push myself too far, I shut down. It’s horrible for my health to continue pushing and pushing.

That was 2018 for me.

Unhealthy.

So, 2019?

All about that bass…I mean balance.

What’s your word for 2019?

 

My Year of No.

Several friends of mine tend to have a ‘word of the year’ that seems to sum up how they intend to approach a new year. I usually don’t. For 2018, I had one word on my mind – No.

No.

No.

No.

This is my year of No.

One thing I’ve noticed about myself (and other autistics) is we loathe confrontation so much that we end up saying yes when we’d rather say no. We get roped into doing more and more if only to get out of a conversation or argument. Being afraid to hurt someone’s feelings is also part of it.

Last year felt like a year of yes. It was completely unintentionally. And by the end of 2017, I felt exhausted physically, emotionally, and every other way you can. I’d pushed myself to do more and more and more. And had less and less and less as a result, if that makes any sense at all.

So this year is my year of no.

I’m not saying yes to getting involved in things (whatever they may be) when I’m honestly not interested or if it pushes me beyond what’s healthy for me.

I’d actually started doing it in November of last year and ended up writing the best novel I’ve ever written to date.

If life is all about balance, a bit of no sometimes helps keeps you from tipping over.

(That made no sense.)

How about you?

Do you struggle with saying no to opportunities even when you should?

Do you have a word for the year?

 

 

Happy New Year.

Here’s to 2018. Let’s hope it’s a far better year than 2017 turned out to be.

Happy New Year!

My publishing and writing year are stacking up to be quite busy, which makes me scared and happy at the same time.

As it stands, I hope to write:

  • a cozy/cottage mystery gay romance novella trilogy
  • a holiday standalone novel
  • start a new gay romance series featuring EMT

And what’s on schedule to be published through Hot Tree this year?

  • The Lion Tamer (Sin Bin Novel)
  • The Blacksmith (Novella)
  • Haka Ever After (Sin Bin Short – the last of the series)
  • One Last Heist (Standalone Novel)
  • Three as yet untitled novellas. Series title: Grasmere Cottage Mystery Trilogy

What are your goals for this year?

If you’re a writer, do you have word count goals or just goals for the novels you want to pen?

If you’re a reader, do you have a certain number of books you’d like to have read by the end of the year?

 

 

My Year in Review.

So, let’s be honest with ourselves, 2017 has been of a garbage fire of a year in the world around us. It’s been difficult to concentrate on being creative as a writer, particular as I write happy endings. It’s hard to be upbeat, but it’s important to do so.

My writing year was a busy one. I had three novels and two short stories published this year with Hot Tree Publishing. I also wrote three novels, three short stories, and a novella. I’ve essentially wrapped up an entire series in a year.

My end of the year word count: 206, 436 (not including the multiple flash fictions I wrote.)

Can I have a nap now?

I’m proud of the work I’ve done this year.

Proud of myself.

The Sin Bin series has been written. Next year the last of the books will be finished. I love my rugby lads and I’m sad I’ll be saying goodbye to them.

But…but…I’m looking forward to the stories I want to write in 2018, though I’ll share more on that in another post. But a sneak peek, I’ll be working on a cozy mystery novella trilogy among other things.

How are you feeling about what you’ve accomplished this year? Did you meet your goals?