Normal.

I can’t count the number of times a non-autistic has told me, ‘wow, you seem so normal.’ Or some version of that sentence, when told that I’m autistic.

And I’m not the only one.

I imagine that most adult autistics have heard it at some point–or repeatedly.

So, here’s a list of reasons why non-autistics SHOULD NOT tell autistics ‘but you seem so normal’ or any variation of the same.

  1. Because WE ASKED YOU NOT TO DO IT.
  2. Because we asked you not to.
  3. The implication feels as though you believe we are not autistic enough for you–which makes us wonder what exactly you are envisioning as the behaviour of an autistic.
  4. It’s rude.
  5. But mostly, because autistics repeatedly ask you not to do it.

I mean, I could honestly come up with fifteen or twenty reasons. The most important one remains, autistics continue to talk about why you shouldn’t do it…listen to us.

The most frustrating thing in the world is finding your voice as an autistic and finding non-autistics aren’t interested in listening.

Please. Do better.

Here’s a great video by an autistic activist about what things you shouldn’t say to an autistic:

Creating a Diverse World.

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One thing I adore about my close circle of friends is the sheer diversity amongst them.   My friends are a mixed bag of race, nationality, sexuality, neuro-diversity and religious and political beliefs.  Why? Because unless you purposefully restrict yourself, it’s impossible not to have a diverse group of close friends and acquaintances in today’s world.  It may be helped by the fact that I grew up traveling around the world and the idea of selecting my friends from only one subset of humanity is nothing short of absurd to me.

Why would I restrict myself like that?

It’s hard enough, as someone with Apserger’s Syndrome, to develop and build friendships because interpersonal relationships are difficult for me.  It takes extra work on my part, and extra patience on their part.  And I am grateful to my friends who make the effort.  I’d be a lonely sad soul without them

The thing is though life is so much more fun when allow others to expand your horizons.

When I started thinking about the people and shifters in the Blackbird world, I wanted it to be just as diverse.

So what sort of mixed bag can you expect from the pack?

There are several diverse couples in the series, just a few of these are:

Josh and Alicia: Josh is black and all British while Alicia is in Josh’s words a Moroccan princess.

Lorcan and Ronan: Ronan is all Irish, but Lorcan is part Irish and part Korean. (m/m)

Sammie and Rosie: Sammie is half-Chinese and half-British, Rosie happens to be asexual though not aromantic. (f/f)

Elaine and Alim: Elaine is British and the resident Aspie in the Blackbird pack, Alim is Moroccan and not a sheikh no matter what his niece Alicia and her best friend Ivy claim.

How about you? Do you enjoy diversity in your romance?